Updated: 28 October 2026 | English questionnaire
What this questionnaire explores
Explore how much your sense of personal worth rises and falls with events in your relationship. The score concerns dependence of self-worth on the relationship, not the quality of that relationship.
11 statements. Responses from 1 to 5. Answer all statements to calculate the displayed scores. No diagnostic cutoff or severity band is applied.
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Scoring and interpretation
A higher average reflects greater dependence of self-esteem on relationship events. It does not mean that the relationship is good or bad. The result can help guide a discussion about a more flexible and broader basis for self-worth.
Reverse-scored items in this version: 6, 7, 9. Each is transformed as 6 minus the response before calculating averages.
Scores are item averages on the response scale. A total sum is also shown as an equivalent arithmetic representation. Higher scores are not a diagnosis. Repeated testing for certainty can become another form of checking.
Source: Knee, Canevello, Bush and Cook (2008). Research and measure reference. Item wording and numbering follow the English form on ROCD.net. For help putting the result in context, read about ROCD assessment and treatment and the ROCD model.
Original questionnaire and source scoring notes
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RCSW(Knee et al., 2008)
Please rate the following statement using the scale below.
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5 |
4 |
3 |
2 |
1 |
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Very much like me |
Somewhat like me |
Not at all like me |
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1. |
I feel better about myself when it seems like my partner and I are getting along |
1 | 2 | 3 | 4 | 5 | ||
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2. |
I feel better about myself when it seems like my partner and I are emotionally connected |
1 | 2 | 3 | 4 | 5 | ||
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3. |
An important measure of my self-worth is how successful my relationship is |
1 | 2 | 3 | 4 | 5 | ||
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4. |
My feelings of self-worth are based on how well things are going in my relationship |
1 | 2 | 3 | 4 | 5 | ||
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5. |
When my relationship is going well, I feel better about myself overall |
1 | 2 | 3 | 4 | 5 | ||
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6. |
If my relationship were to end tomorrow, I would not let it affect how I feel about myself |
1 | 2 | 3 | 4 | 5 | ||
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7. |
My self-worth is unaffected when things go wrong in my relationship |
1 | 2 | 3 | 4 | 5 | ||
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8. |
When my partner and I fight, I feel bad about myself in general |
1 | 2 | 3 | 4 | 5 | ||
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9. |
When my relationship is going bad, my feelings of self-worth remain unaffected |
1 | 2 | 3 | 4 | 5 | ||
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10. |
I feel better about myself when others tell me that my partner and I have a good relationship |
1 | 2 | 3 | 4 | 5 | ||
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11. |
When my partner criticizes me or seems disappointed in me, it makes me feel really bad |
1 | 2 | 3 |
4 |
5 |
Reversed items: 6,7,9
Knee, C. R., Canevello, A., Bush, A. L., & Cook, A. (2008). Relationship-contingent self-esteem and the ups and downs of romantic relationships.Journal of personality and social psychology, 95(3), 608.