Attachment Insecurities

  Experience of Close Relationship Scale (ECR; Brennan, Clark, & Shaver, 1998)

Instructions: the following statements concern how you feel in romantic relationships. We are interested in how you generally experience relationships, not just in what is happening in a current relationship. Respond to each statement by indicating how much you agree or disagree with it. Write the number in the space provided using the following scale:

1

Disagree

strongly

2

3

4

Neutral/

mixed

5

6

7

Agree strongly

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1

I prefer not to show a partner how I feel deep down.

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2

I worry about being abandoned.

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3

I am very comfortable being close to romantic partners.

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4

I worry a lot about my relationships.

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5

Just when my partner starts to get close to me I find myself pulling away.

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6

I worry that romantic partners won’t care about me as much as I care about them.

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7

I get uncomfortable when a romantic partner wants to be very close.

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8

I worry a fair amount about losing my partner.

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9

I don’t feel comfortable opening up to romantic partners.

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10

I often wish that my partner’s feelings for me were as strong as my feeling for him/her.

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11

I want to get close to my partner, but I keep pulling back.

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12

I often want to merge completely with romantic partners, and this sometimes scares them away.

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13

I am nervous when partners get too close to me.

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14

I worry about being alone.

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15

I feel comfortable sharing my private thoughts and feelings with my partner.

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16

My desire to be very close sometimes scares people away.

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17

I try to avoid getting too close to my partner.

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18

I need a lot of reassurance that I am loved by my partner.

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19

I find it relatively easy to get close to my partner.

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20

Sometimes I feel that I force my partners to show more feeling, more commitment.

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21

I find it difficult to allow myself to depend on romantic partners.

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22

I do not often worry about being abandoned.

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23

I prefer not to be too close to romantic partners.

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24

If I can’t get my partner to show interest in me, I get upset or angry.

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25

I tell my partner just about everything.

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26

I find that my partners don’t want to get as close as I would like.

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27

I usually discuss my problems and concerns with my partner.

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28

When I’m not involved in a relationship, I feel somewhat anxious and insecure.

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29

I feel comfortable depending on romantic partners.

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30

I get frustrated when my partner is not around as much as I would like.

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31

I don’t mind asking romantic partners for comfort, advice , or help.

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32

I get frustrated if romantic partners are not available when I need them.

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33

It helps to turn to my romantic partner in time of need.

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34

When romantic partners disapprove of me, I feel really bad about myself.

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35

I turn to my partner for many things, including comfort and reassurance.

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36

I resent it when my partner spends time away from me.

Attachment anxiety: Even numbers (reversed: 22)

Attachment avoidance: Uneven numbers (reversed: 3, 15, 19, 25, 27, 29, 31, 33, 35)