Do I have ROCD in romantic relationships?

Only certified mental health professionals such as Clinical Psychologists or Psychiatrists  can identify and diagnose ROCD reliably.

People with ROCD tend to use phrases like

I obsess about my girlfriend / boyfriend / partner because I fear that he/ she is not

intelligent enough

successful  enough

 smart enough

 does not look good enough

 is not moral enough

 is not social enough

 is not funny enough

 is not emotionally stable enough

 

 Sounds Like Me

Or

I obsess about my girlfriend/boyfriend/partner because

 I am not sure he / she is the one
I am not sure  he / she is right for me
I look at other man/ women
I am attracted to other man / women
I am not sure he / she loves me

 Sounds Like Me

But not all the people who think such thoughts have ROCD !

 

On the basis of our clinical experience and research we constructed the following self-report measures to help mental health professional to assess ROCD.

The ROCI (Doron et al., 2012)

(Can help in the assessment of relationship-centered OC symptoms)

The following statements describe the way people may experience intimate relationships. We are interested in the way you experience intimate relationships. Please rate the extent to which such thoughts and behaviors describe your experiences in intimate relationships.

The numbers refer to the following verbal labels:

Not at all 0

A little 1

Moderately 2

A lot 3

Very much 4

 

 

 

1.	The thought that I don’t really love my partner haunts me		0	1	2	3	4
2.	I find it easy to dismiss my doubts about my partner		0	1	2	3	4
3.	I constantly doubt my relationship		0	1	2	3	4
4.	I find it difficult to dismiss doubts regarding my partner’s love for me		0	1	2	3	4
5.	I check and recheck whether my relationship feels “right”		0	1	2	3	4
6.	I am constantly looking for evidence that my partner really loves me		0	1	2	3	4
7.	I feel that I must remind myself over and over again why I love my partner		0	1	2	3	4
8.	I am sure my partner loves me		0	1	2	3	4
9.	I am extremely disturbed by thoughts that something is “not right” in my relationship		0	1	2	3	4
10.	I continuously doubt my love for my partner		0	1	2	3	4
11.	I keep asking my partner whether she/he really loves me		0	1	2	3	4
12.	I frequently seek reassurance that my relationship is “right”		0	1	2	3	4
13.	I am constantly bothered by the thought that my partner doesn’t really want to be with me		0	1	2	3	4
14.	I feel a need to repeatedly check how much I love my partner		0	1	2	3	4

 

Coding

Love for the partner: 1,7,10,14

Relationship “rightness”:3,5,9,12

Being loved by the partner:4,6,11,13

The PROCSI (Doron et al., 2012)

(Can help in the assessment of partner-focused OC symptoms)

The following statements describe the way people may experience intimate relationships. We are interested in the way you experience intimate relationships. Please rate the extent to which such thoughts and behaviors describe your experiences in intimate relationships.

The numbers refer to the following verbal labels:

 

Not at all 0

A little 1

Moderately 2

A lot 3

Very much 4

 

 

 

1.	I am happy with my partner’s morality level		0	1	2	3	4
2.	I repeatedly evaluate my partner’s social functioning		0	1	2	3	4
3.	I am constantly questioning whether my partner is deep and intelligent enough		0	1	2	3	4
4.	I am satisfied by with my partner’s appearance		0	1	2	3	4
5.	I am troubled by thoughts about my partner’s social skills		0	1	2	3	4
6.	I am constantly bothered by doubts about my partner’s morality level		0	1	2	3	4
7.	I find it hard to dismiss the thought that my partner is mentally unbalanced		0	1	2	3	4
8.	I often seek reassurance (from friends, family, etc.) about whether my partner is smart enough		0	1	2	3	4
9.	When I am with my partner I find it hard to ignore her physical flaws		0	1	2	3	4
10.	I keep comparing my partner’s ability to “achieve something” in life to that of other men/women		0	1	2	3	4
11.	I can’t stop comparing my partner’s intelligence level to that of other men/women		0	1	2	3	4
12.	I find it difficult to control my tendency to compare my partner’s emotional responses to those of other men/women		0	1	2	3	4
13.	The thought that my partner is not intelligent enough bothers me greatly		0	1	2	3	4
14.	I am constantly bothered by thoughts  regarding the flaws in my partner’s physical appearance		0	1	2	3	4
15.	The thought that my partner is not a “good and moral” person bothers me on a daily basis		0	1	2	3	4
16.	I feel good about my partner’s level of intelligence		0	1	2	3	4
17.	I keep looking for evidence that my partner is moral enough		0	1	2	3	4
18.	Thoughts about my partner’s poor functioning in social situations bother me on a daily basis		0	1	2	3	4
19.	Every time I’m reminded of my partner I think about the flaw in his/her appearance		0	1	2	3	4
20.	I’m constantly examining my partner’s morality level		0	1	2	3	4
21.	I keep trying to compensate for my partner’s social deficiencies		0	1	2	3	4
22.	I am bothered by doubts about my partner’s emotional stability		0	1	2	3	4
23.	I am happy with my partner’s social skills		0	1	2	3	4
24.	I keep examining whether my partner acts in a strange manner		0	1	2	3	4
25.	I am extremely preoccupied with assessing my partner’s ability to “make something of himself/herself”		0	1	2	3	4
26.	I feel an uncontrollable urge to compare my partner’s physical flaws with those of other men/women		0	1	2	3	4
27.	When I think of my partner I wonder whether he/she is the sort of person who can succeed in the modern world		0	1	2	3	4
28.	I keep looking for evidence of my partner’s occupational success

 

Coding

Morality 6,15,17,20

Sociability21,18,5,2

Emotional stability  24,22,12,7

Competence  28,27,25,10

Appearance 26,19,14,9

Intelligence        3,8,11,16

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